Welcome to the GayDayton™ web site!
Free testing options in Ohio… click here!
Monkey Pox - click here!
Visit our Blog for news, info, and commentary.

GayDayton™ has served the greater Dayton, Ohio, gay community for over 25 years.  Our goal is to provide a central clearing house for news, events, activities, information, and resources to and for our community.

Click outside search box to close window.

Click image to watch video…

  • October 2024
    Calendar
    Oct. 3 6:00 PM LGBT Center Monthly Board Meeting Center
    Oct. 3 7:00 PM Yoga with Matt Center
    Oct. 5 7:00 PM Art of the Q (Q+ Art Show) Center
    Oct. 7 1:30 PM HIV testing with Equitas Center
    Oct. 7 7:00 PM LGBTQ AA Group Center
    Oct. 8 6:30 PM PFLAG Monthly Meeting Center
    Oct. 9 7:00 PM Pozitive Attitudes (HIV Support) Center
    Oct. 10 7:00 PM Yoga with Matt Center
    Oct. 10 7:30 PM Out Here Film Festival (see page 8&9) Neon
    Oct. 11
    National Coming Out Day
    Oct. 11 7:00 PM Out Here Film Festival (see page 8&9) Neon
    Oct. 12 12:30 PM Out Here Film Festival (see page 8&9) Neon
    Oct. 13 12:30 PM Out Here Film Festival (see page 8&9) Neon
    Oct. 14 1:30 PM HIV testing with Equitas Center
    Oct. 14 7:00 PM LGBTQ AA Group Center
    Oct. 15 7:00 PM Gatlyn Dame Group Center
    Oct. 17 7:00 PM Yoga with Matt Center
    Oct. 20 3:00 PM Primetimers Potluck Center
    Oct. 21 1:30 PM HIV testing with Equitas Center
    Oct. 21 7:00 PM LGBTQ AA Group Center
    Oct. 23 7:00 PM Pozitive Attitudes (HIV Support) Center
    Oct. 24 7:00 PM Yoga with Matt Center
    Oct. 28 1:30 PM HIV testing with Equitas Center
    Oct. 28 7:00 PM LGBTQ AA Group Center
    Oct. 31 7:00 PM Yoga with Matt Center

    All I can say about life is, ‘Oh God, enjoy it!’
    Bob Newhart

  • Pride 2024
    Dayton PRIDE Events of 2024
    by Randy Phillips

    The month of May is a count down to PRIDE here in Dayton. Due to the construction going on at Courthouse Square this year, Dayton PRIDE needed to find a different venue to hold the event. While many venues were looked at, a street party became the obvious choice. To hold the event in the street right in front of the new Greater Dayton LGBT Center also means many will now get introduced to the New Center at the same time. This year, the main stage will be built in front of the new LGBT Center on St. Clair, by 1st Street.

    On Thursday, May 30, at 7 PM. PRIDE kicks off with an interfaith service hosted by the Rev. Adam Wirring at St. John’s UCC and lead by various local ministers and lay individuals to offer prayer, peace, acceptance and understanding as this PRIDE season kicks off.

    On Friday, May 31, at 6 PM Pride begins with The Affair on St. Clair as the Street becomes closed to traffic between 1st Street and 2nd Street for a wonderful PRIDE celebration block party featuring live bands, the Theatre Lab and headlining the evening is the one and only Rubi Girls! This family friendly event is always fun and growing every year. Do Not Miss It!

    On Saturday, June 1st is the main event, line up for the Parade begins at 10 AM on Jefferson Street between 2nd and 3rd Streets. Promptly at 11AM the Parade will step off traveling west on 2nd Street to Main Street and turn right traveling one block to 1st Street and then east on 1st Street to the main stage on St. Clair where the Parade will join the rest of the crowd for a wonderful day of PRIDE celebrations and vendors and booths line the street from 1st to 3rd Street celebrating PRIDE. From noon to 4:00 PM, live entertainment on the main stage will include singers, drag personalities, and local government officials, all to celebrate the queer people of Dayton and beyond.

    On Sunday, June 2nd is the 9th annual “Running With PRIDE” sponsored by PFLAG Dayton and held at Eastwood Metro Park. Registration for the day begins at 7:30 AM, and the family friendly run/walk begins at 9 AM. On Saturday, June 8th at 8 PM is the “Save A Horse” concert by the Dayton Gay Men’s Chorus featuring the Grammy nominated gay recording artist, Ty Herndon at the Dayton Masonic Center.

    This is a very exciting PRIDE season. Happy PRIDE!

  • Out Here Dayton
    Film Festival
    “Out Here Dayton” Film Festival - 2024

    The 19th annual “Out Here Dayton” film fest runs Thursday, October 10th, through Sunday, October 13th, at Dayton’s arthouse theater, The Neon. (130 E. 5th Street, Dayton, Ohio 45402)

    Featuring nine different feature screenings along with 25 shorts, this is an LGBTQIA+ film lover's dream weekend. Oh, and don’t forget the Friday Night Party hosted by Lily’s Bistro - always a great time!

    Thursday
    The weekend kicks off at 7:30 PM with the short “Stan Behavior” by director Tyler C. Peterson. A drag queen (Ginger Minj) pushes for better workplace rights, but ends up in a precarious position.

    Thursday’s feature title is “Lady Like” by director Luke Willis. This is an imaginative, heartfelt documentary about a student of dance. Lady Camden’s fairytales take her across many ballet stages before lip syncing on the catwalk at RuPaul’s Drag Race.

    The evening ends with the short “Kings” by director Eric Garcia. Two drag kings fall in love after a bathroom quickie.

    Friday
    Friday’s extravaganza begins at 7:00 PM with the short “Queen Size” by director Avril Besson. In the morning, Marina has an appointment with Charlie to sell her a mattress. She will cancel her plane ticket that evening.

    Friday’s feature is “The Queen Of My Dreams” by director Fawzia Mirza. A queer Pakistani grad student, Azra, finds that her ideology is far from her conservative mother’s - yet, when her father suddenly dies, she finds herself on a journey through memories from her mother’s youth in Karachi to her own coming-of-age in rural Canada.

    9:30 PM - the Post Screening Friday Night Party will be at Lily's Bistro. (Ticket Holders Only) 329 E. 5th Street, Dayton 45402

    Saturday
    Events begin at 12:30 PM with "The Top Drawer Shorts Pack 1" with 7 wonderful shorts.

    3:30 PM - the feature film “A House IS Not A Disco” by director Brian J. Smith will be presented. This is a look at the Fire Island Pines and pleasures and conflicts as millennials connect with old timers and bring about community.

    7:00 PM - we begin with the short “Wouldn’t Make It Any Other Way” by Had Zhou as an aspiring costume designer visits his homeland of Guam to make costumes for a children’s theatre and reconnects with distant parents.

    Following the short is the feature film by director Matthew Miele “Bob Mackie: Naked Illusions.” This film showcases the 6-decade career of the award winning costume designer and his costumes. Mackie is wholly unique and unfiltered, which makes for a compelling and candid subject - with interviews including Cher, Pink, Tom Ford, Miley Cyrus, RuPaul, Carol Burnett, and more.

    9:45 PM - Short “The Dinner” by director Jesus Martinez when there are issues that just cannot wait until later.

    The evening’s feature film is “Mother Father Sister Brother Frank” by director Caden Douglas. Tensions rise quickly as long lost brother Frank unexpectedly attends the traditional Sunday dinner. Mindy Cohn and Enrico Colantoni star in this comedy horror film that’s full of violence, gore and big laughs.

    Sunday
    Showings begin at 12:30 PM with "Top Drawer Short Pack 2 .” This collection of 6 delightful shorts could be considered introspective, but you will just have to watch to describe them for yourself.

    3:30 PM - the feature film will be “What A Feeling” by director Kat Rohrer. When a chance meeting at a lesbian bar brings two women of a certain age together, they quickly discover they live vastly different lives in this rom com named after the Irene Cara classic anthem. This is a fun Austrian film you will not want to miss. Yes, this one does have subtitles, but, What A Feeling.

    6:00 PM - to round out the festival, we present “Turtles” by David Lambert. Thom and Henri, now in their 60s, are a married couple living an outwardly sweet existence at their quaint home in Brussels with their pet turtles, Topsy and Turvy. As they celebrate Henri’s retirement from the police force, Thom sees this as a perfect opportunity to rekindle their passion after 35 years. But Henri can’t cope with his newfound lack of purpose, and thus… the two start to drive each other crazy.

  • 8/4 Memorial
    8/4 Memorial

    8/4 Memorial
    On August 4th, 2024, on the 5th anniversary of the mass shooting that took place in the Oregon District, ‘The Seeds of Life” memorial will be unveiled and dedicated. The design for this memorial was chosen by a committee made up of artist and community leaders to reflect creation, inspiration, and community growth since the horrific event that left 9 people dead, besides the assailant and many others injured.

    “The memorial is to honor nine lives that were lost on August 4, 2019,” said Jes McMillan, executive director of the Mosaic Institute who has worked so diligently with her team to create a mosaic of healing and togetherness that provides the ground work before the 9 sculptures within the memorial along with the live plantings to represent those that were injured, and a large bench where people can sit and reflect.

    “These things have a long-term impact. That is the only thing I can stress because I get that a lot, you know? Oh, it’s been going on for five years, you should feel better, or you should be doing alright. There is no time limit on trauma,” said Dion Green, mass shooting survivor.

    Join us on August 4th, from 3-4 pm for the dedication of this historic piece. Next door to the Trolley Stop, 530 E. Fifth Street in the Oregon District. The artist team includes: Terry Welker, FAIA: architect/sculptor, team leader Sierra Leone: poet, educator, community builder Jes McMillan: artist, community builder, The Mosaic Institute James Pate: artist, designer, community builder

    “This memorial will be an important step in the healing process as we remember those who were lost and grieve with those who were affected by this tragedy in the heart of our community,” said Sandy Hunt, memorial co-chair.

    Funding for the 8/4 Memorial is possible thanks to the support from the CareSource Foundation, City of Dayton, Conor Group Kids & Community Partners, Dayton Children’s Hospital, Kettering Health Network, Montgomery County, Premier Health, Sinclair College, University of Dayton and donations from the Gem City Shine hosted by Dave Chappelle.

  • Make-A-Will
    Month

    August is National “Make-A-Will Month”
    by Mike Menninger of Houck & Menninger Law, LLC.


    Many folks improperly equate “estate planning” with “writing out a will.” A last will and testament can help with some planning goals, but it has some limitations.

    First, the good.

    A will lets you direct how your assets are distributed after you pass away. Without a will, your assets would simply be distributed according to the laws of your state, known as the “laws of intestate succession.” The process of intestate succession will completely ignore your wishes because what you “would have wanted” is simply irrelevant to the state without a formal will in place.

    With that being said, in most nuclear family dynamics, the laws of intestate succession generally mirror what most people typically do in their wills: everything to a spouse, and if the spouse is predeceased, everything to the children in equal shares. In many cases, having a will and not having a will ends up with the same result, except that a will lets you name an executor.

    Even if your wishes regarding your distribution don’t differ from intestate succession, a will is critical when you have minor children. In your will, you can name a trusted person to serve as a guardian to raise and care for your children when you cannot. However, without a will, a court decides who will raise your children, and the court may appoint someone you would not have selected yourself.

    A will also allows you to appoint an Executor to handle your estate. Without a will, you may end up with someone you never intended seeking control. But with a will, you decide who will serve and in what order. So, yes, a will is an important document to ensure your wishes are respected after you’ve passed away. But it is important to understand its limitations.

    Limitation #1: No planning for incapacity.
    Your will does not direct who should manage your affairs should you become incapacitated. Creating durable powers of attorney for finances and healthcare lets you designate the right persons and provide them with sufficient authority and instructions on how to make decisions about your assets, personal affairs, or medical care when you are unable. If you do not have powers of attorney in place, your family may have no choice but to go to probate court to appoint a court-supervised Guardian, which typically means legal fees, court time, and stress that could have been avoided. Not to mention that if you don’t name someone, someone you didn’t want might seek to get control (like with your will).

    Limitation #2: Wills don’t cover assets with beneficiary designations.
    Wills only direct those assets you own in your sole name (i.e. not jointlyowned assets) that do not have beneficiary designation. Assets such as life insurance, annuities, qualified retirement accounts (e.g. IRAs and 401(k)s), investment accounts, and even bank accounts or real estate, all allow for beneficiary designations to dictate how the asset is to be distributed after the owner dies. In fact, many court cases have determined that an owner’s will is irrelevant if it contradicts what was written on the beneficiary designation form. This is why it’s important to also review your beneficiary designations periodically to ensure they reflect your current goals and circumstances and are not accidentally inconsistent with your will.

    Limitation #3: Wills guarantee probate.
    Many people are under the impression that having a will helps avoid probate. In fact, the exact opposite is true. If a will is disposing of an asset, the disposition is happening in probate court. If you rely on beneficiary designations on certain assets (see above), or you have jointlyowned assets, those assets will generally avoid probate. But if you rely on a will alone, you are effectively guaranteeing probate. It is for this reason that some individuals utilize a trust as their primary planning document, instead of a will. A revocable trust, done correctly, allows your estate to avoid probate entirely—and the public scrutiny that accompanies it. Trusts can also protect your assets against creditors and other threats while protecting your heirs’ inheritances against creditors, unnecessary taxes, divorce, and even their own poor decisions if they are not yet mature enough to handle an inheritance.

    Conclusion
    In short, while a will can help you accomplish important goals, additional estate planning tools and strategies are necessary to protect you and your loved ones during incapacity and after you pass away. You have to be willing to think through some difficult scenarios in order to ensure you’ve truly got a comprehensive estate plan, one that makes things clear and simpler for your loved ones. We also recommend frequent reviews and that your plan is update every 5 years. Please consult an estate planning specialist for more details on how to protect yourself and insure your wishes are carried out.

  • Transgender
    Day of
    Remembrance
    2023

  • Queeries?
    S24 - E1 & E2
    Ohio HB68
    In this episode, we talk about Ohio House Bill 68, the governor's veto, and the overriding vote and impact on Ohio and health care.
    With your host, Bryan Kimmet…


Check GayDayton™ often for news and activities about our community, along with links to entertainment, gay–friendly businesses, healthcare, and organizations – right here… on GayDayton™!

GayDayton™ news and opinions? Read our Blog for the latest thoughts from our community. Want to blog on GayDayton™? Blog entries are moderated, but entries are welcome from everyone. Submit a blog entry here!


GayDayton Dayton, Ohio